I’ve met a lot of Type A’s in my life, including the one I look at every day in the mirror. One thing we all have in common is that we are achievers. We like to set goals, we like to win, and we like to do it quickly without a lot of drama. We are not afraid of working hard in order to achieve. Where we tend to run into trouble is when we associate our self worth with our achievements.
When we associate our self worth with achievement, we become overachievers. We lose balance, become hyper focused on our goals, have perfectionistic views of how things need to be done and become not so fun to be around. We ignore our relationships and tip the scales of balance completely to one side. We live our lives with a shit ton of anxiety or fear of being a failure. Achievements become a way of proving that we are worthy.
This, my friends, is an exhausting and stressful way to live your life. Take it from me, it will affect your health.
If you can answer yes to more than a few of the following, I would highly suggest you think about getting off the overachievement bus:
- Do you only care about the outcome of your goals?
- Do you have perfectionistic tendencies?
- Do you criticize/judge yourself constantly?
- Do you think about the future all of the time?
- Do you overwork?
- Do you avoid being criticized/judged at all costs?
- Are you motivated by fear?
- Are you stretched too thin?
- Are you anxious or overwhelmed frequently?
- Are you afraid of failing?
All of this becomes a habit over time. We don’t even realize we are doing it until one day something drastic gives us a wake up call.
Don’t wait. Do something about this now. My number one suggestion is to immediately implement a routine that will inject calm and mindfulness into your daily life. This is the exact opposite of what you are doing every day (anxiety and future-focus) and is an easy way to bring about some balance. Ideas include meditation, gratitude practice, intentional daily planning and reviews, and breathwork. Don’t be a perfectionist about it either. Pick something easy that you know you will do. The whole point is to cultivate calm and awareness.
I got off the overachiever bus and it was the best thing I ever did. You can do it too. Schedule a complimentary session here if you want some help getting back to balance.