It occurred to me today that thinking we don’t have enough in any area of our life really drives the feelings of chronic stress and overwhelm. In fact, I’d say it was a primary driver. Our partners aren’t enough, we don’t feel like we are enough, we don’t have enough time, we don’t have enough money. The list can go on for quite a while.
What’s driving this scarcity mindset? Well again, it’s our big beautiful brain that wants to keep us from dying. Our default programming says that we need more so that we don’t die.
I know for me, I had a scarcity mindset around time. I had so much to do and not enough time to get it all done. I was crazy busy. I had to be ultra productive. All of these were thoughts that were my default programming. They caused me to feel chronic stress all the time because I felt like I was behind and had to work constantly to stay ahead of the game.
I was living at the effect of time and it was scarce!
I did a lot of writing to figure out what thoughts were driving my feelings of overwhelm and chronic stress and finally landed on my default which was “I have too much to do and not enough time to get it all done”.
Once I found my default thought, I asked myself how I could figure out if it was true. I landed on recording every single thing I did for three days. It was a pain in the ass, but I discovered that I had all kinds of time that I was not intentionally using.
Once I knew it wasn’t true, I became hyper aware of every time I was thinking that thought. I let it happen, but I also said, “Now, Holly, we’ve already proven that’s not true. We have plenty of time”. You’ll have to forgive my use of the “Royal We” here, but I’ve found this method most effective for me. I go there less and less now, but still catch myself from time to time. Enhancements to brain programming take time!
Where are you having scarcity thoughts? Is it in your relationships, time or money? Here are 5 steps you can incorporate into your life to create a more abundant mindset.
- Become aware of your thoughts and prove them true or false in an objective manner. Change your thoughts if they aren’t true. Feel free to use the “Royal We” method above.
- Practice gratitude every day. What do you have in your life for which you are profoundly grateful? If you can’t rattle off 10 things here, you need to focus on this.
- Curate what you are seeing and listening to by including more positivity on a daily basis. If you watch the news for an hour, listen to a motivational podcast for an hour. If you’re on Facebook for an hour, read a motivational book for an hour. You get the picture.
- Encourage curiosity. Every night write down one thing you learned today. Explain it to your friends and family. Have fun with it.
- Quit comparing yourself to other people. All those people on Facebook and Instagram that make it look like they have a perfect life are curating an image my friends. Everyone has a life that is 50/50. You might just be exactly where you are meant to be right now. Have you considered that?
We live in an abundant world my friends. There is plenty to go around. Thinking that we don’t have enough, results in us not having enough because we’re so stressed we can’t create value. Try some of these tips every day and I promise you will “Stress Less and Create More…”.
PS: If you are a high achieving tech professional who wants to learn how to Stress Less and Create More…, I’d like to invite you to join my free Facebook group “The High Achiever’s Stress Management Collective”. I’m excited to see you there! I go live every Sunday night at 6:00 PM eastern to discuss a topic and answer your questions.