My Mother Should Have…

I listened to a great podcast this week that talked about redefining the relationship with your mother. The premise was that you might have a relationship with your mother where you still feel as though you are the child and are lashing out like you are one when you interact with your mother. It wentContinue reading “My Mother Should Have…”

Using your Brain’s Power to Find Obstacles to your Advantage

Did you know that the brain’s main purpose is to protect you from danger? If you think about it, early mankind had to be constantly alert for danger to stay alive. Our brains evolved to always be on the lookout for danger. Have you ever noticed that it’s much easier to think of all theContinue reading “Using your Brain’s Power to Find Obstacles to your Advantage”

Stop “Shoulding” on my Parade

We have over 40,000 thoughts per day. Creating a habit of writing down your thoughts every day can lead to some very interesting discoveries. This week I spent a lot of time doing thought downloads and noticed something interesting. I use key words and phrases quite a bit in my thoughts. Some of my favoritesContinue reading “Stop “Shoulding” on my Parade”

The Importance of Questioning your Thoughts

The last few days have been a challenge for me. I’ve been helping to deal with my mom’s health concerns. My thoughts have been swirling and going to places that are driving some not so helpful emotions. I’m fairly sure that there are some healthcare professionals who hope they never have to deal with meContinue reading “The Importance of Questioning your Thoughts”

Peeling Back the Layers

My coach, Corinne Crabtree (www.phit-n-phat.com), uses the Self Coaching Model by Brooke Castillo (https://thelifecoachschool.com/self-coaching-model/). This overarching model has truly helped me peel back all the layers of buffering in which I was engaged. I smoked to buffer feelings of anxiety and stress. I ate to numb the feelings of shame that my nasty internal conversationsContinue reading “Peeling Back the Layers”