The Perfection Pressure Cooker

When I got out of the Navy, I went back to college.  I distinctly remember calling my husband in tears because I got an A- in Philosophy. I was distraught and can recall how I felt like such a failure because I no longer had a 4.0 GPA. I look back on this now andContinue reading “The Perfection Pressure Cooker”

I Don’t Feel Like It

I’ve spent the last several hours with some emotional unrest. Today is my day to blog and I found myself procrastinating. I’ve gone back and forth on a topic, taken a walk, and taken a nap. All of which did nothing to get me the result of a written blog post. OK, Holly, what areContinue reading “I Don’t Feel Like It”

An Awful Lot of Awfulizing

There is an awful lot of awfulizing going on in my orbit today.  If you listen to some people, the world is going to end. You might be the one doing the awfulizing. Listen, you are not Nostradamus. You cannot predict the future. The future is uncertain at all times. There is no certainty outsideContinue reading “An Awful Lot of Awfulizing”

Scarcity Mindset Drives Chronic Stress

It occurred to me today that thinking we don’t have enough in any area of our life really drives the feelings of chronic stress and overwhelm. In fact, I’d say it was a primary driver. Our partners aren’t enough, we don’t feel like we are enough, we don’t have enough time, we don’t have enoughContinue reading “Scarcity Mindset Drives Chronic Stress”

The Stress Response

I’ve been doing quite a bit of research on the brain this week specifically on the topic of stress. I found Dr. Andrew Huberman via the “The School of Greatness” podcast by Lewis Howes.  Dr. Huberman is a neuroscientist at Stanford and runs the Huberman Lab. His research focuses on visual perceptions and autonomic responsesContinue reading “The Stress Response”

Do you Procrastinate?

Do you know why? You might think you are broken, but I’m here to tell you that procrastination is a defense mechanism that the brain uses in order to avoid pain, conserve energy, and seek pleasure. If you are thinking that something will be hard, boring, painful, a lot of work, not very much funContinue reading “Do you Procrastinate?”

Future You

Have you sat down and really thought about where you want to be a year from now; 5 years from now; 20 years from now? If not, why not? This is a brilliant exercise that can help you figure out what you need to be practicing now in order to get there. Let’s say forContinue reading “Future You”

Using Strong Feelings as an Awareness Tool

When was the last time you experienced a really intense feeling? Maybe you were angry, maybe you were overwhelmed or maybe you were bursting with pride. The amazing thing about feelings is that they are the product of our thinking and they drive our actions. Our actions in turn produce our results.  If you’re notContinue reading “Using Strong Feelings as an Awareness Tool”

Using your To Do List as an Awareness Tool

Do you have a to do list? What feeling comes up for you when you look at it?  If you’ve never done this exercise, I highly encourage you to do so. Write down what you are feeling and describe it. This is such valuable information and can really help you figure out what you areContinue reading “Using your To Do List as an Awareness Tool”