I gave a speech this week for our local Young Marine’s organization to celebrate the promotions of all the great kids who worked hard this year. I decided to talk about what I wished I knew when I was a kid. I didn’t figure some of this stuff out until recently, so I thought I would share it with you all in case you don’t know either. 🙂
- Be you. Don’t try to be something you don’t really want to be, just to fit in. You are perfect just as you are. Focus on what you are good at and get better at those things. There are people around you that want to be friends with you just as you are. They like your brand of “weird”. PS. Most of the friends you have or want now, will not be your friend forever.
- Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone is on their own journey. Just because someone is ahead of you does not mean that you are doing something wrong. It just means that there is something you need to learn before you can move forward. Be especially careful with social media. People post the best of their lives and don’t tell you about the worst.
- Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Mistakes are how we learn and grow. They have nothing to do with how worthy or smart you are. I know you were told in school that failing is bad, but in real life, this is the only way you figure out what to change and improve. Having a mindset of “what can I do better tomorrow” will get you much further in life than trying to be perfect all the time.
- Only consider other people’s opinions if they are being given to you from love. If the person doesn’t love you or care about you and isn’t trying to help you get better, say thank you for your opinion and delete it. This is especially true for random strangers that don’t know you at all. 🙂
- Self accountability is a very important trait to develop. It’s pretty easy to be accountable to others. It’s not so easy to be accountable to yourself. If you decide you are going to do something, do it. Don’t allow yourself to make excuses like I’ll do it later. Be careful that you are not overwhelming yourself. I like to stick to 3 things I will absolutely do today. I decide what they are every morning.
- Don’t try to read other people’s minds. Ask them what they are thinking. It is not possible to know what other people are thinking without them saying it or writing it down. Assumptions cause a huge amount of misunderstandings. Make as few assumptions as possible.
- Never be afraid to speak up or ask questions. If you see something that isn’t right or that you don’t understand, speak up. It is not stupid to ask questions. It’s the only way to gain understanding.
- Worry is an inefficient use of time. 90% of what you are worried about will never happen. So all that time could have been used for something else, like fun. 🙂 If you catch yourself worrying, ask “what’s one thing I can do right now to solve this problem?”, then go do it. Action stops worry.
- No one can make you feel anything. You do that by what you think. Your thoughts about any situation is what causes your feelings. No one or no thing can upset you. Your thoughts about what they said or what is happening is what creates your emotions. You are in complete control of how you feel at all times. Don’t ever forget this.
- Your mind is the most powerful tool you own. If you believe that you can do something, you will do it. Period. If you don’t believe you can, you won’t. Do everything in your power to manage your mind to make sure you believe that “everything always works out for me”.
If you are ready to ditch the hustle and pressure in your life, let’s talk. I help my clients unlearn their stories around time, relationships, achievement, perfection and people pleasing. You can be a totally different person six months from now.