My fellow woman in tech, you have been socialized that your time is less important than others.
You were taught by your parents and society that your spouse, your kids, your family, your coworkers, your boss, and your community are more important than you.
That you need to take care of others before you take care of yourself.
That sacrifice leads to success for women.
All of this is directly correlated to how you manage your time.
When you believe that your time is not as valuable as others, you give time you already decided to use for something to others without question.
You basically give up your power when it comes to your time.
I used to do this all the time at work. I never said no. If someone asked me for help, I immediately discounted anything that I already had planned. It got so bad that I stopped planning altogether because I had told myself that my calendar was not in my control. This story led to me being a victim to my calendar and working like a madwoman to get it all done. Needless to say, that didn’t end well.
What I learned is that being a victim to my calendar was me giving up my power and that power is the foundation to self confidence.
High levels of self-confidence are essential to being a successful and balanced woman in tech.
Recognizing all the areas where we feel disempowered is a good first step in awareness. Time, money and relationships are the most common areas where we tell ourselves that we are not in control of our results.
Are you controlling your time or letting someone else do that for you?
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