On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate your self confidence? One symptom I routinely see with lower self confidence scores is the habit of second guessing most decisions.
How much time do you spend second guessing your decisions? Do you hear yourself saying “I should have” or “I shouldn’t have” after every single thing you do?
When you do this, it’s a big sign that you do not trust yourself. Second guessing leads to a lack of confidence and certainty which can be picked up by others. Lack of confidence and being uncertain leads to a lack of influence. If you have ever thought “no one listens to me at work”, it might be because you do not project confidence and certainty.
Another reason we second guess is that we think there is a “right” and a “wrong” answer. What if there is only the best answer at the time? What if people who try to convince us that there is a right and a wrong answer, just want to be right?
Second guessing is a habit. You have taught your brain that it’s ok to ruminate on what could have been different. The great news is, you can teach your brain that it’s not ok to second guess.
- Catch yourself thinking “I should have” or “I shouldn’t have” after you have made a decision.
- Add on “but that’s ok, I trust that I made the best decision with the data I had available”.
Give it a try. Decide that you will trust yourself. Only you can know the best decision for you.
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