The last few days have been a challenge for me. I’ve been helping to deal with my mom’s health concerns. My thoughts have been swirling and going to places that are driving some not so helpful emotions. I’m fairly sure that there are some healthcare professionals who hope they never have to deal with me again. In hindsight, it was a fascinating experience….if I observe it from a third party perspective.
- My brain automatically went to full on victim mentality. I can’t do this because this is happening. This drove a feeling of helplessness which does not end well for me. I either get angry or ignore the problem altogether and nothing gets solved.
- My brain also went to full on judgement of myself and others. Nobody was doing anything the way I thought it should be done and I was judging my own motives as well. This drove feelings of shame which resulted in more ignoring of the problem.
I got coached on this topic and within 20 minutes my coach was able to help me see that my thoughts that I couldn’t make a plan simply weren’t freaking true. I took back my power like a boss and made a plan that I can live with in one hour. Days of spinning and misery came down to one hour of action to solve.
How did my coach help me solve this situation so quickly? She asked me some really good questions about my thoughts and didn’t let me off the hook until I answered them.
The next time I find myself in a similar situation, I will remember the power of asking good questions. I will repeatedly ask myself “Is that true?” and “What else can I do right now?”.